Recently, I had the pleasure to receive as a gift a wonderful book entitled El templo de las mujeres (The temple of women) by the argentinian female writer Vlady Kociancich. It caused a great impact on me, because it revealed the personality and beauty of an exceptional woman ─we need more novels whose main characters break stereotypes─: Mistral. Draftswoman of a sophisticated magazine for women, tireless traveler, Mistral owns a gift, which, in the beginning, seems to be artistic: the talent of drawing splendidly. So, after suffering her mother’s death and her father’s abandonment during childhood, she will be raised by her grandmother, who will teach her how to be strong and independent. The relationship between Mistral and men is unstable; the author designs the plot by showing several suitors of Mistral, who lives a life free from bonds.
With thirty years old already, the lead of this story lives between Argentina and Europe, where she does her comissions. In spite of living comfortably, of enjoying a unique independence, of making a living from her talent, Mistral will suffer when the veil that covers all men that intend to get in her life to take over it, tears apart. She will fight to preserve her kingdom of freedom with all her mind and her soul.
Her gift, her true gfit, is, precisely, «the gift of leaving», of belonging to nowhere, of lacking roots, of flying like a kite across the sky without worries, without troubles, without men that disturb her artistic life. It is here where I want to stop to ask myself: why aren´t we like Mistral?, why do we pretend to live tied to a husband, to some children, to a country in particular? Awkward questions, sure, but they also carry a great philosophical statement: not everyone has the gift. And there will be some that will critique my words, because motherhood and marriage are symbols of hapiness in our society. If I could talk about a married woman who is happy, I would without question. But all I see is opression, conformity, mediocrity, poverty, ignorance, fear, attachment. And sure, if women, in their glorious interior temple would think deeply, they would realize that human race’s destiny is in their hands; they would take Mistral seriously, and would see they have the power to transform the world. Motherhood shall be reinvented.
Most women have the gift of giving birth, but it has degraded so much each time new generations do not want to include in their plans having children. If the rules of the game don’t change, and mothers continue to do household and raise their kids alone, and have to renounce to their professional life, or worse, have to work twice, this tendency will grow.
Now, as I write these words, somebody complains, someone trembles, he is the typical macho that sees his future: he will have to reeducate and unlearn. But, isn’t it a fascinating journey? Now, all men have the gift fo leaving, and soon they will have to cultivate another gift: to create themselves from cero.
I really hope you liked my letter, for it was written with honest words. I look forward to know your thoughts and comments.